But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. I got close to having sex once, but I made the mistake of telling the guy that I was a virgin. What should I do?
Breaking the Hymen: 6 Facts and Myths About Virginity
How Do You Know When You're Ready To Lose Your Virginity? Ask Yourself These Questions
Like: If there are two holes in your vagina your urethra and your vaginal canal , which hole does sex happen in? And what about all this "popping the cherry" stuff I've heard about? And WTF is a hymen?! Let's start off by answering that last question. Your hymen is a majorly misunderstood part of your body — many people think being a virgin is defined by how open your hymen is. This is totally false!
What Happens When You Lose Virginity? A Female Body Guide
The concept of female "virginity" has a complicated history, and has often been incorrectly linked to breaking the hymen. Bleeding after intercourse was thought to be proof of an unbroken hymen, and thus, proof that a woman had not had sex before. The reality, however, is that the state of your hymen has nothing to do with sexual activity. As for how to know if your hymen is broken, it's near impossible to see it for yourself.
Like: If there are two holes in your vagina your urethra and your vaginal canal , which hole does sex happen in? And what about all this "popping the cherry" stuff I've heard about? And WTF is a hymen?!